Episode 57 – Default Prejudice

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Are you prejudice?

Most of us think we are not.

Maybe it would help to turn off the news, talk to someone different than yourself and discover what’s going on in your head and in theirs.

I made some mistakes recently. And, learned a few things about myself. Things I didn’t even realize about what’s going on inside of me.

This episode is slightly different. I chose to share a personal journal entry I wrote after an emotional week of learning about my defaults and prejudices.

Episode 57 Show Notes

Episode 57 Transcript

This is Rebecca Clark. Episode 57 Default Prejudice This podcast is for anyone that knows they haven’t yet found and offered up their best work but are compelled to seek it out and do it. Are you ready to move your desk? Hello. Lots of thoughts going on in the world right now, and I am not alone in having lots of thoughts. You know, I’m someone who is on a path of personal development right now. Have been trying to shut out as many voices as possible. But there moments where you decide that you want to participate in the conversation I chose quite a few years ago to not let the daily news conversations dictate what I thought about what I cared about or what I thought about certain topics.

Now, as I reflect, I think I made this decision a couple of years into the social media explosion. Still, there are times where it can be important to join the conversation. For me, this means that I join on my own terms, not because it is expected of me or forced upon me free will and enjoying my choice to do so. So here we are, with the Daily News feeds increasing judgment and stress in the world that’s already difficult. Toe live in thes newsfeed’s air, telling us what to choose to focus on.

Now the media plays its role in information sharing and are amazingly effective at persuading and influencing and creating action for different causes. There’s the good, the bad and the ugly. And this endeavor there’s always been, and there always will be the yin and the yang, the opposition, the 50% great and the 50% awful of life as a human being. Still, along with all of the ugly, many people have found other like minded individuals and have felt community strength, an opportunity that they hadn’t known in the past again, this is how the world was made to be continual growth of good in the world, combined with continual growth of the opposite.

It is an eternal principle in my mind and my belief system. There will always be opposition. It’s how we learned to discern the good from the bad, the truth from the error and to question our own default thinking and beliefs. Because beliefs are essentially from what we choose to repeatedly think about on a daily basis. It overshadows how we view the world, how we interact and, most importantly, what we gather evidence for throughout our day to support the thoughts that we already have running through our minds.

One of the problems with how our minds operate is that when we feed it enough of one idea, it gets lazy, it accepts that idea is fact. And then we start seeing the world from that perspective and notice how everything supports it and frequently used quote is, If you have a hammer, everything looks like a nail or the frequently used analogy of If you decide you want to buy a red Mustang, suddenly you will see them all over the place. Now, in the technology world, this is exacerbated because the algorithms that are used behind major search engines and social media platforms start serving you up information based upon what you’ve searched for in the past and what seems to match the preferences of other like minded online searchers.

So two people in the same room can perform the exact same search on different computers on the Internet and get completely different results based upon their prior search history. Since I’ve known this for years, I don’t even click on things that will create a ripple effect of unwanted results. Personally, I never click on any TV celebrities, political post or what is a trending topic. You could say that I’m then choosing to only see the world a certain way, and that would be true. I’m seeking to change and improve, and so I want all things that helped me to do that, to come to the top.

For me, that is neuroscience, psychology, self help, learning, technologies, coaching and other topics like it. You could argue that I lose touch with the evil in the world and am avoiding it. That could be true, but the reality is that I’m choosing a career specifically designed to help me help myself and to help others. So I interacted new people all the time that are experiencing different problems. I strategically view social media towards seeing what conversations are going on, and my spouse is a news junkie and sends me a steady stream of articles about every possible topic.

And each article has exquisitely crafted marketing headlines to try to grab my attention. This all ties into a habit, architecture, choice, architecture, behavioral economics and persuasion theories which I will not go into into this episode. But it is important to know that the media, tech companies and APP developers work very hard to follow principles that will create desire, addiction and focus thoughts towards you making the decision. They think you should want to make all this to say We all have our default ways of thinking, default, view of the world and default prejudices, and we’re all influenced by different sources of information.

This is so interesting to think about. First of all, what is prejudice? It’s a preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience. And I thought about this and thought I would add, Will I think that some prejudice does come from actual experience, but perhaps an experience interpreted in a certain way. And every person in the world has a prejudiced about something larger, small. It’s part of how he makes sense of the world. It’s part of how we narrowed down our decisions and choices to keep our brain from being overwhelmed.

It’s taught to a set of very young age from our parents or grandparents or other caregivers are teachers and later our friends. Some prejudice feels harmless. I have had a few that I thought of this harmless throughout my life. Thes boiled down to thoughts, right? Because the thoughts become beliefs, thes thoughts or judgments we make is we develop preferences in life. Here’s some that I remember hearing as a youth, and some of these apply to me and some do not. But I’ve tried to keep them just listed as thoughts.

I don’t want to hang around them because they smoke. They will probably make fun of me. So I’m not even going to try being their friend. They probably think we’re gross because we have an old car. Those popular girls are snotty people like her because she has blonde and has nice clothes. I try hard to be a good person, and yet it seems like some bad people get all the luck or the money or cars or opportunities that mom should spend more time with her kids and less time on her work.

They shouldn’t go into debt. Why did they buy that house? He only makes this month’s money. They should give more. They have a lot of money. Maybe they could share more. Instead of going on so many vacations, they should make clothing for tall people. That’s one of mine. I like X y Z race the best. I don’t like X y Z race. They always do. Dot, dot dot. Here’s some from adult life. He probably got the job by smoothing with the president of the organization. She should just get over her grief.

Why do the gregarious and loud people get more recognition? He just worries about himself. He shouldn’t be in that job here. She got the opportunity because of their relationship. Was so and so. He only likes to hire women that have PhDs. She only promotes people of her own race. I’m not going to let other people tell me what to think. She will throw you under the bus the first chance she gets. I can’t believe what he or she said on social media. Totally unfriending them Now I can’t be associated with people like that.

I’m not gonna change what I think I am, right? Their wrong. They need to change. They’re racist, they’re sexists. They’re a bigot. They’re an idiot for liking the president. The particular new station or the fill in the blank person or thing. They should just get over it. The past is over. Let’s move on notice. These are all just thoughts. Some that we hear from our parents, some that we hear from a teacher or a friend at school. And we choose what to do with these thoughts. If we choose to entertain them, we will see more evidence each day that they’re true.

This could be good or bad, who knows? But either way, an expedition to gather evidence may ensue to support whatever thought is occupying our minds. If we choose to question these thoughts, we’ll find other examples and start choosing to believe something else. This has its own up and downside. Sometimes we do so with arrogance, like I’m gonna prove them wrong kind of thinking or disdain, like I’m not gonna be part of that thinking, and I’m gonna keep showing them how I am right. That’s absurd. The hardest part is that we have certain trust levels with those that tell us information so two people can share the same idea with us, and we will believe it from one person and not from the other parent figures, including grand parents, are the people that raise most of us and have the greatest opportunity to instill thoughts that turn into beliefs.

Later, friends start having more influence as evidence by the choices we make as a teenager. Some mirror their parents, more others, their friends and still others, the media. If there are differing opinions across the spectrum, there could be confusion. But confusion and questioning can lead to more searching and clarifying beliefs rather than defaulting, I say could because it is always a personal choice. So what of this? All I think all of us are combination of sincere searching and growth and a lot of default thinking and, more specifically, default prejudices, default, prejudice about race, religion, politics, other outward appearance factors like weight, hair color, attractiveness and job suitability, education and gender.

And what is so difficult for a lot of us in the world right now is that we’re being told that we all have to change something about ourselves. So others in the world can be more comfortable. Does it even matter what side of the argument you are on? No. You have something wrong with you? No, matter what depending upon which new station or website you look at. Take the recent events related to racism, an active prejudice for some and a default prejudice for others. Some say they have been deprived, disadvantaged or disregarded.

Others say Get over it. Listen to my story. I have had trials to we all have disadvantage. Others say that everyone has to take a stand or they’re guilty because they do not speak up. Do we hear ourselves talking? Most of this talk is all about other people making changes, other people making the world safe, finger pointing and bottom line. No listening and collaborating. No change. At the same time, others are taking responsibility, some even bending over backwards to do so. Some are grateful they’re bending over backwards and others are accusing and judging them for doing so.

Many feel on listen to underappreciated and misunderstood. So far, a lot hasn’t worked, but a lot has right good multiplies, but so does the opposite. Now all small moments are magnified with the social media megaphone. What are you using your megaphone for justifying your current thoughts, Exploring others thoughts, putting down others, thoughts de friending people usedto love because they think differently, shutting down online conversations because others air just so hate, filled and wrong, taking everything so personally that you want to shut down Facebook and go live on an isolated farm or island.

For many people, this is a stalemate. How’s that working for you? Really? How is it working for you? For most of us, it’s not working. I’m trying to sit here and watch it all to try to figure out what next. How do I help? How do I change? How do I influence others to want to think about their blind spots, their personal default prejudices? And why bother if everyone else isn’t going to do the same? And how will I be judged in the process? As someone who desperately tries not to watch the news or react to it in any way?

I’ve stayed out of most Corona virus conversations and police brutality news. I was striving to self improve and offer up my best work going forward. But then I started to see the variety of reactions online and started to think a lot. Why are these normally kind people defensive and so firm in their stance, are not being helpful. Why are some people using? This is a chance to show how unfair things are in the world. Why am I hearing the same stories over and over while simultaneously not hearing other stories that are also happening that are a big deal in my mind?

What am I not seeing? That’s right in front of me? And then the coaching world got pulled into conversations about what should coaches do about it? How did they frame the conversations? How could they help? And then I saw coaches getting flak about not responding with opinions or help. Some coaches that aren’t even on social media but are very popular there called out. They were judged. They were pulled from pedestals. Some had put them on. What is going on? Emotions air. Hi. Everyone is defending themselves either from a crouching position, ready to jump or from a fetal position.

Feeling helpless? Yes, there are circumstances. There always are the circumstances air neutral. We make them mean things with our thoughts. And those thoughts lead to emotions. But maybe there is more to it. Even if circumstances, air fax and her neutral, maybe they matter. Maybe they matter a lot because everyone can and will choose what to do with those same exact circumstances. This past week I coached a deer black friend who was now worried that she had to have more conversations with her young adult son about what he could wear, what he could say, what he could do, how he should act around police officers.

I’m assuming she’s had these conversations before because he’s 20 years old. That is my assumption as a white woman. Why? Well, because my parents talked to us from the time I can remember about how to behave, how to dress, how to speak and understand that people wouldn’t always like us because of our beliefs. And they may even persecute us, since that was part of our history and toe learn what we were going to do with that. So I had empathy and saw the pain that she felt. I figured I understood that pain.

We had a good conversation and coaching session. It sounded like she thought so, too. Later that night, I was listening to a podcast, and a white woman was processing some pain that she was having related to, not giving her clients what they were hoping to receive from her support Toe lied through their emotions and thoughts related to prejudice against blacks. I started thinking through all kinds of thoughts, especially because I’ve been in a reflective mode lately. I’ve always loved different races, cultures and belief systems other than my own.

I had always wished that I had more of an infusion of different ethnicity in my background. Over the years, my love has grown for diversity, and I didn’t feel like I had anything to apologize for change or to address. At this time. My spouse dealt with both racism and police brutality on I’ve heard all the thoughts, concerns and fears from him for many years. Still, I felt myself thinking through all of my life experiences, those moments where people suddenly didn’t like me because of my beliefs. The people that did judge me for my clothes or cars, the people that threaten me with killer dogs, guns and then wouldn’t let me and my companion into their homes in horrible thunderstorms because of what we represented as missionaries.

I also remembered all my experiences being the only white person in different situations and seeing judgment, disdain and hatred in some faces for a few moments until people actually talked with me and realized that I wasn’t to be feared. Are worried about that. I was okay and that I was a safe one. Lots of thoughts, no resolution. I woke up at 2 a.m. the next morning, after the coaching session, I wrote down these thoughts and more, very sincerely to my friend that I had coached and said that I was struggling with the current situation struggling because I felt like I had been on the right track in life in this area, if anything, a person who had provided opportunities to a wide variety of diverse people and not because they were different from me, but because I truly thought they were the best person for whatever job was required.

And I’ve always felt alive and extra energy around many of my multicultural friends, co workers and neighbors. After I sent the email, I’ve read it again. I thought it was fine. No worries. This was going to a person I trusted, and we shared a lot of insights together. She would provide me insights into my thinking. Still, I felt something was off, But what was it? I read it again an hour later. It was still early in the morning and I thought it was fine. But then I realized I was feeling off for a reason.

I don’t know about you, but I often feel off if something is actually off when something actually needs to be thought about and corrected. So I did what I’ve been learning to dio write down all my thoughts and then start to get curious about them asking questions like this. Why am I thinking this thought? Why is it painful? What am I not seeing in my thinking? What am I not questioning? I decided to use the mind framework the mental model that I’ve learned this year and use in my coaching.

The one that I talk about an episode 24 mind frameworks I put into the model all of the thoughts. And of course, we just choose one thought when we’re working on a mind model. But I chose to list lots of thoughts and do lots of models, and I chose thoughts I thought that I had thought or more likely, had seen on Facebook. I’m being told that I am privileged. I am not privileged. I do not feel privileged. I am not prejudice. I am not racist. I am at a disadvantage.

I can’t trust anyone now. Apparently my trials and experiences don’t mean anything because I am white. I want to take back my power. I want to be treated equally. People need to defend my rights. Racism is built into the institutions. I should be treated more fairly. I’ve been wronged. If they aren’t staying against this than their supporting it, I don’t want them as a friend. I don’t think you’ve been wronged your human. All humans have been wronged. If you really think about these thoughts, can you be sure which side of any argument they represent?

At first, it may be easy to categorize them in your mind, but not so fast. Everyone is using different words, but underneath it all, there’s a lot of similarity going on. As I put some of these thoughts into the mind framework, I started to see a pattern. It didn’t matter which point of view was revealed in these thoughts. The emotions from these thoughts ran along the lines of the following feelings justified, victimized unworthy, discounted, stifled, forced, censored, misunderstood, fearful, protective, attacked, disregarded, disrespected, discourage, obstructed, unwilling, guarded, defensive, judged judgmental.

And more revealing was when I followed this through with these questions. What emotion does this particular thought produce? What actions does this emotion produce? What results do these thoughts, emotions and actions ultimately produce? It was so interesting to try to look at a problem from many different viewpoints. And what did I find? Well, it was kind of amazing that all of those thoughts might have had special little variations of their own that produced all of those feelings. But each mental model or mind framework that I worked on came out with essentially the same results.

Less connection with others within and outside of race, less desire for connection than before. Less understanding, more standing up for current thinking, more justifying current belief, more gathering evidence to support personal thoughts, more judgment, more condemning others, thoughts, more overall negative results, no progress on actual problem, trying to be resolved, discontent amongst different groups of people, increased prejudice, racism and introduction of other issues into the mix, things that are related, like poverty, gender, religious beliefs, etcetera. Wow, now of course, I admit this is me deciding that these are the results based upon my own thoughts and listing the thoughts of others.

But because I through a few of my thoughts in there, I could see how I was positioning myself as someone who had lots of negative experiences in my life as well. But this was not actually helping the situation. It was further proving to the friend. I sent my email to that I wasn’t listening, wasn’t understanding and wasn’t really trying to work together toward figuring out how to move forward with solutions. This feels crazy because on all other kinds of matters we would talk through. We would talk together without justifying our position.

This is when I blow my own mind. And when I realized this, I wish I hadn’t sent the email. I tried Googling to see if I could rescind the Gmail three hours later. But gmail only allows you to do this. Within the 1st 30 seconds of sending email, I sent another email saying, Please don’t read it. I said that I was gonna need to meditate and pray and figure this out. Figure out what I was missing. I stood about it for a day and 1/2. I got headaches. I did more thinking and journaling.

I fasted from all of my cookie overdosing, which had increased this past week. I learned about myself. I got down on myself. I totally hadn’t thought I was missing anything in this discussion. But I had. I learned that I make mistakes. Even while trying not to make thumb, I learned that I would want my friends and fellow people to have compassion with me before delving into problem solving. I would want to be listened to and be heard. My father happened to Ford an article during all of this, showing the historical context for decisions made about Africans in my religious upbringing.

It was very candid talking about what different presidents of the church had thought and had assumed and had believed they were taking action based upon what they thought God wanted. Society operated a certain way. They didn’t question it, but others started to question it. They reviewed the questions, they prayed and thought on the questions and decided to keep things the same because inspiration didn’t come over time. They started to wonder. Is this the right thought. I’ve never seen that. This could be different. Now People are telling me it could be different.

What do I do with this new idea? I’m not sure how to think about it. I haven’t thought poorly of anyone. I just thought this is how things were supposed to be. I am a religious leader. I follow God’s lead, not what people are media want me to do what next and then to read of President Spencer W. Kimball, who was the religious leader at the point in the 19 seventies, that these discussions were taking place. Excerpts from his journal entries and personal encounters show that he started to search, ask questions, pray, go and meditate daily and a holy place and search for answers with this entire heart and soul toward making the right decision and with a determination to follow.

Whatever the right thing to do was even if he didn’t understand it, and to request those that reported to him to seek prey and received guidance and choose to follow it. He’s received thousands of letters from those across Africa requesting privileges given to other members. He started to question if this was part of the process of change, listening to the people and taking their request to God versus just praying to God to ask questions. His efforts were constant until he could find peace, and the piece came once he listened, meditated, ask different questions to himself and others.

He made a decision and asked others and leadership to pray and meditate on that decision. They all unanimously had confirmation that the decision was correct in a different time and space. And today he knew deep down once and for all that we were all created equal in the sight of God and that all should have the exact same privileges. He went forward and announced such to the world. It brought joy to him, to the other leadership, to the other members and most importantly to all of the African members that were seeking the same rights and privileges.

True, there were some that didn’t believe this. Those that thought it was a political stunt, those that thought that it wasn’t the right choice, and those that couldn’t believe it was actually happening even if they desired it. It was too good to be true. I feel a renewed sense of to commit myself to pursuing life with the intensity and commitment that all involved in these changes brought to the table. All of us do come to this life with privilege and with disadvantage. But some do come with very factual disadvantages, specifically being cut out of having access to certain rights granted to other humans.

But beyond that, disadvantaged also, that they’re surrounded by people that have passed on certain thoughts to them that they thought were fax, that there were no other options. And these disadvantages come in many forms. For many white people, this could come from the thought that everyone has disadvantaged and so they shouldn’t stick their neck out. For someone that keeps saying, Look over here, I am hurting and they need your help to stop this pain, that people should just all suck it up and deal with it. For the black person, this may be the disadvantage of not seeing they have more options on what to think of those that have blatantly harmed some of them, or don’t realize that some of the stories they’ve heard haven’t happened to everyone.

We all end up with different blind spots. All of these blind spots contribute to these stalemates and thinking these default prejudices, these thoughts that we think we don’t need to work on Leaders in a church didn’t even have the thought that something could be wrong. No one had introduced the idea to them that they could think otherwise. Surprisingly or not. Guess who were the massive people pointing this out? Ah, huge number of African people that wrote letters stating that they knew they had found the truth in this religion.

And why couldn’t they please have the privilege of fully living it. Please invite us in. We know you have something we want. Please, Please, Please. They wanted a seat at the same table not to prove anything, but because they believed to be true. Thoughts, Yes, thoughts that turned into beliefs, beliefs that exactly match the leaders of the churches beliefs at the time, a seemingly unlikely match. And yet there was a match, and Africans requesting this still wanted it, even if it didn’t appear like they should want it.

On the flip side of this, the leaders thought that God wanted them to follow inspiration and not the masses. So they were tourney by this new idea being presented from the people dry petition God for something just because people are asking. Well, they learned that, yes, Often God works through other people to meet the needs of humankind. Oh, wait. Most of the time he works through other people to serve purposes for other people. I was humbled and motivated to spend more time seeking guidance on my thoughts after seeing the extensive efforts of this leader.

What a great example of striving to do what is higher power wanted and listening to what the people wanted. Not seeking popularity but seeking to discover truth and discover the weakness in his thoughts. Think of the Africans in this situation powerful, persistent, seeking for more privilege seeking privileges that they thought others had just because they had the right heritage. These people were pioneers in their thinking and willingness and persistence. I want to be like them, too, persevering with true faith, taking action in the absence of any evidence that change would happen.

Think of other thought leaders in history of helping people change their thoughts. Most recently, names like Martin Luther King and Victor Frankel are those that I’ve read from most different races, different circumstances. But they both took their circumstances and used them to teach people how to look at their particular circumstances differently. And they helped change thinking. Each of us comes to each situation with our current set of thoughts and most of which we aren’t aware of. We have blind spots. We think we’re right. We don’t think we need to delve into the other person’s views.

We think we’re the one that has weighed both sides carefully and are being fair. But are we? Are we willing to question ourselves? What is fair, anyway? Are we willing to explore options that we haven’t yet thought? Are we willing to reach out to someone and say Help me understand what I’m missing? I think this. Why do you think that it may be really uncomfortable? You may make mistakes, big mistakes in front of a lot of people. Others may make mistakes. What will you think of them?

What will you do to them? Unfriend them? It’s okay if you dio because you have that choice. But take a second and see if your reasons, our reasons you like short and long term, we all act out in ways we think our best. But it is clear that most of us are feeling pain in some way pain of not being listened to pain, of not being understood, pain of thinking that this will never end pain, of thinking that people are too wimpy to judgmental, too unfair. Two ungrateful to racist and the list goes on.

All of this pain is showing us that we all have inner work to do. Some will choose to do it. Some will not. It’s been this way through time, and human nature has a hard time changing. We’re all on a different schedule. Most of us are continuing to learn that there is no way on this earth that you are going to change another person’s opinion. No one has ever converted anyone but themselves. Others may say you change their way of thinking, but you did not. They chose to change their own thinking.

You introduced the new thought to them in a way that they were curious about. That’s part of free will we decide for ourselves everything, and that’s part of the hard. We all won’t decide to do so, and if we dio, it’s always on our own schedule. Well, finally, over 35 hours later, I heard back from my friend. At this point, I assumed all was lost. I figured that I had not shown compassion or empathy. I hadn’t listened to what was really needed. A listening ear. Ah, willingness to take a look at the problem together, a willingness to look inside to see what is missing.

A willingness to sincerely hold space during a difficult challenge. But I am lucky she was willing to talk. She was willing to take a look at some of the things I was saying. Things I wish I hadn’t brought up because they didn’t matter in this moment, maybe later, but not in this moment of her hurt and pain. At the same time, my mistake was needed for me to learn. Still, it just took us to a different layer of difficulty toe work through, and if we’re both willing, we can work through it.

What if I choose to see someone saying they feel threatened, fearful, disadvantaged as someone that is reaching their hand out from a sinking boat, and I can help them aboard doing what I do when a child is in pain or someone just found out they got cancer. How do I help? How do I think differently? How to explore new thoughts together that actually inspire? Give hope, see possibilities? What if extending compassion is all that is needed to open mental doors that have been stuck that there were otherwise hidden?

Now they’re found and can be opened. Discover new possibilities. What if that is the first step toward gaining trust? And later we can talk about how to work together on a solution, and both hearts will open and share vulnerable and powerful experiences to discover each other together and help each other along the path of life. It will be a completely in perfect process. But what if we understand ourselves more through the process and step into more interesting work, a new world of possibilities for ourselves and a discovered ability that otherwise seemed beyond us?

We will, of course, we will. Isn’t that what Earth School is about pushing ourselves to let go of what we have learned to this point and attempting something new? The baby learning toe walk the first day of school, The first new job, the moving to a new neighborhood. The promotion, the newly discovered health challenge, the first painful put down in public and the list goes on now. What if, in addition to those new experiences, we also have physical things about ourselves that we cannot hide, no matter how hard we try?

Our color, our height, our weight, disabilities, a different voice, their upfront and noticeable there. Different disadvantages than beliefs, insecurities, emotional intelligence. These differences matter. But let’s help the matter in better ways. Let’s question our thinking, our judgments and our approach. Let’s get open to experiencing new experiences. The kind that are not as obvious is the first day of school the kind of hard that is seeking to get to know someone we didn’t think we wanted or needed to meet. Admitting to being scared. Interact with someone. But you want to make the attempt and finding a way to serve each other.

Even if we still think, Why bother? Who knows? You may make a new friend. You may find new thoughts to think. You may just love what you discover. My thoughts are full of blind spots. I’m sure that after I put this out into the world that I will find out that I’m totally clueless about many more things. That could be your thought, and I choose to realize that about myself. Even as I write this out. I’ve even discovered some new blind spots already. Some issues related to women that I blatantly ignored because it hasn’t been my experience.

I’ve had some negative things happen in life, but I have often made more money than my male counterparts and haven’t felt judgment, harassment or insecurities. Like many of my female coworkers, New blind spot revealed, and now I get to work on it. Putting these thoughts out there is a risk. It’s a risk I’m willing to take because someone will step forward and help me learn that I have some other options to think about. Well exposed. My disadvantage to me. They’ll expose my privilege. They’ll expose how maney default thoughts that I really have going on, and I’ll say thank you.

You’ve given me new thoughts to think about. I will think about them and go from there. And then there is you. You choose to think and when to change what you think. I can’t help but leave you with a call to action after all of these words, A nudge. If you will take a moment today to be curious about your beliefs. What do your default thoughts? What could be your prejudices? What could be your advantages, your privileges, your disadvantages? What do you want to think about these things about you.

How do you want to feel about it? How do you want to act same or different than right now? Good news. You can choose to change what you learn. Needs to change for the results you want and you get to choose to keep what you like and that serve you and those you serve. What will it be? How will that work for you? Be patient with yourself and others in the process. We’ve all got our baggage. I wanted to leave with something written in Luke. Chapter 12 Verse 48 it says for unto whomsoever much is given of him shall be much required.

And to whom men have committed much of him. They will ask the more. If you are listening to this, you’ve most likely been given much use what you’ve been given in the best possible way. Take what you’re learning and go forth to give and serve. Have a great day, My friends. Talk to you soon. Thanks for listening to the show today. If you enjoyed it, I’d love if you’d write a review and share the show with your friends, sign up for a weekly nudge at. Move your desk dot com.

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