Episode 66 – Push Back on the Desk – the Audience Insights

This is Rebecca Clark. Episode 66 Pushback on the desk The audience insights. This podcast is for anyone that knows they haven’t yet found and offered up their best work, but are compelled to seek it out and do it. Are you ready to be of your Theo for the characters and the Muppet Babies? Peggy gone. Zo fuzzy animal summer permits. And what happened when that little chef made the meatballs? They didn’t like dumb. But did they tell him? No, I know because they were worried he would be sad. Okay? And what happened? Because they didn’t tell him he tried to make the Miami were luncheon with Hutch him Biggers invention. But instead of turn number into more big meatballs and mourn on young near meatballs, ISS may turn them into a meatball monster. And then what happened? Get wrong out on a night The stuff made, made it young here. And then it started to cook one more with him. And at the end, what happened? They have phone cooking and they had better meatballs. No, they started macaroon donated macaroni. Okay. Yeah. I thought that the chef was glad to find out that the meatballs were bad and he was able to change the recipe. And, uh, and the chef gave Gondo cauliflower ice cream. Ooh, hey, you know what? That is there no used? Yes, That little conversation came as a result of seeing a show called Muppet Babies this past week, and it’s not the first time I’ve seen it. I’m starting to see some of these episodes a few times, but one of the little monsters, whatever called, had made meatballs. And normally this little personage, I guess you could call it This little cartoon makes great food. So all the characters were excited to taste the meatballs, and they were absolutely horrible. But they didn’t want to tell him they were horrible. So they found all of these ways to hide the meatballs. They took a baseball bat and were hitting the baseball’s out of the backyard. They were hiding them under the chickens. They’re doing all this stuff to hide the’s meatballs. And then, of course, the chef thinks they like them because he doesn’t know otherwise, and it comes out with some more meatballs. Well, somehow those meatballs get together, they get bigger, they become a monster and Somehow through the process, the feedback gets out that the meatballs weren’t good and the chef realized, well, wait a second, they weren’t good. I got to change something in the recipe, is able to change something in the recipe and make some great meatballs. But he couldn’t do that without feedback. And as someone who is creating a podcast and it’s creating courses and is coaching, feedback is a huge part of what I like to have come into me. Because otherwise I don’t know if I’m helping anyone. If I’m offering up my best work and it could cause some confusion now to be clear, I make this podcast for me first, and that sounds very selfish. But I have lots of lessons learned, and stories that I have promised myself to get out of me on the podcast is a wonderful way to do that, and I happen to be glad that other people have some of the stories resonate with them, or they make changes in their life because of something they hear and they decide to act upon. And so that is a wonderful thing. But periodically I have these pushback on the desk episodes where I share some of the audience feedback and insights toward helping you know that I do listen, but also because I think those insights and feedback need to be shared just like the awful meatballs we need to be able to get insights from each other. We need to collaborate. We need to be able to connect in some way. So it’s really been fun to capture some of the moments that you shared with me and to share with you how some of those moments have changed me. So I wanted to start off with. First of all, I was getting coached by M. J. Walsh. She is a retired doctor in Canada, but she’s also a life coach. She went through the same training I have, and so we have coached back and forth, and I’ve learned a lot from her. And when she started coaching me through a more formal process about two months ago, she came to me with notes. She came to me with insight. She came to me saying, Hey, when I was reading this book, I thought of you and I wanted to share this thought with you, and that was powerful to me like, Oh, she is demonstrating what it is to be an effective coach. And along with that, she put the notes in this particular coaching tool. And she added, More resource is to it. And I thought, Wow, this is really great. This is helping me keep track of the experience and it’s keeping track of the experience from her end as well. And so I adopted that same coaching tool. I actually went out and researched a couple other tools and then realized, you know what? I like the tool that she selected, that this actually fits what I’m trying to do. So I started using that tool. Also, in the course of conversations with her, she brought up a tool she was using to collect notes, and it happened to be ever note. And I said, Oh, yeah, I’ve used Evernote before and didn’t think much of it at the moment. Except I did write a note about Evernote and then realized that my life has changed significantly this year, right? I’m no longer carting around a backpack to go to meetings in different buildings. I’m no longer opening a notebook and making sure that I capture every note from every stakeholder, every leader, every team member that has something for me to think about or to respond to. And that means I am changing the way I manage my time changing the way I manage my notes. And I realized, Wait a second. This may be a good time to go back to using Evernote because I’m now sitting in the same place every day home and I have different needs. So I went and started another Evernote account and then thought, Let me go see if I still have the other account. And I did. I found over 100 50 notes or some crazy amount, and I was able to go through those and see what I was researching. This is almost 10 years ago. I believe that I had this account and to see that I was looking into mobile learning at the time, I was looking into customer relationship management At that time, I was looking to sales funnels at that time. All the things that I’m looking at again now so is very interesting and also kind of sad to see that some of that research helped me in some ways. But a lot of the tools were different now, right? Except for some of them that had sustained change. So this was powerful for me to go through because I got to see from a fellow coach how coaching can be done, and it really resonated with me when she said, I treat this like charting when I was a medical Dr right. You chart everything that comes through. You take notes on everything you analyze, you compare and contrast progress with the patient. And that thought helped me become a better coach. And so I just wanted to shout out to MJ for her example and how she showed me the next step in coaching. She shared tools she was using. I decided to adopt or re adopt those tools, and it helped me in my work. What if she hadn’t shared that with me? What if she hadn’t set that example? Maybe someone else would have been there for me to learn from. But for me, she was my person, right? She was the nudge er for me. I’ve also gotten a lot of feedback from my family, which is really cool, because sometimes those closest to us. Some of us can worry about whether or not they will even want to hear about what we’re doing or have thoughts about, what, for two. But I got this great voice message through text from my father that I wanted to share. So here it goes. I’m learning how to send an audio message. Rebecca, listen to your podcast this morning about the Johnsons and ambition reminded me of our conversation about writing style. Some thoughts popped into my head. I want to share with you Number one reading older script. I think it’s very beneficial. I learned in doing my history research that the old writers really don’t really knew how to turn a phrase and create interesting sentences instead of the simple structure will tend to use nowadays. So I think reading old texts like that is very helpful and understanding syntax, sentence structure, vocabulary choices, etcetera. Very, very helpful. And for that reason, I think reading some of these older things outside of our normal area of interest is very helpful as faras just peppering our mind with ideas on the later come out in our writing style. Secondly, and more tactical, once you’ve written a paragraph for to go back and look at it and see what you think, correct as needed. And with some of the key words. Look up alternate spellings or alternate meanings on a thesaurus I found in doing that in my writing. That help may choose better words so that it wasn’t always repeating the same word to describe the same phenomenon I know your mother often describes. Things is being interesting. Well, interesting has many synonyms, and they can all be used in different settings to portray the same point. Same thing goes with word beautiful, and we tend to do that with a lot of our phrasing to. But as you have to go back and look at your own writing, see that repetition anyway? Just a couple thoughts I thought I’d share and see if this works. Have a good day yourself, fluent in those podcasts. It’s amazing, isn’t that great? So as a result of that text, I’ve thought, you know what I need to build into my planning, some learning on how to use more of the English language, right, because this is a week area for me. I know. Have a podcast. I know I’ve written a lot and shared lots of experiences, but the reality is is consistently through my A, C T and other test scores. English has been the lowest score. It hasn’t been low, but it’s been lower than other capabilities I have. So that is something that I do want to work on and improve because I want to offer up my best work. And I realized my best work is not all gonna happen today. It’s a process. Also fun is when your father send you a video of your mom exercising on the floor, listening to your podcast. So I guess she had me as part of her morning exercise routine for a few days a week. I don’t know how long. Maybe it’s still happening. Maybe it’s not, but thank you, Mom. I had another sister, Ariel, and say, Where is this coaching you’re talking about? Because she heard a couple of siblings had decided to go through a coaching process with me, and she thought she was missing something, and that was a reminder to me that sometimes when we share, it’s not the time where someone else can receive, and this is why marketing consistently is important, right, because just because you put a big message out there doesn’t mean everybody’s ready to see it at that moment. They might pass by it because something more urgent is going on in their life, so they don’t see it. So the importance of re sharing, giving people opportunities to interact on a consistent basis, and not just once It’s been really fun to coach with two siblings who are going through a business program with me as they step up into the next level, work or step into entrepreneurship growth, and to see how their mind is working for them and to hear that they’re listening to the episodes and getting things out of them. I want to thank Renee, who consistently, whenever she likes an episode. She writes up this really great summary from her perspective and shares it out to her friends. And I read those and like my word. I love how it’s written up. I do not have that kind of skill to convey ideas, perhaps in that way yet, but luckily I can save and review what she’s provided to me about my own podcast and use that content to share. So the act of me sharing has allowed her to learn and grow and share back to me in ways that are allowing me to learn and grow. I love how few people have shared with me that their kids have listened in on the podcast and have found it relevant. And these range from Children that air preteen to those going off to college. So I’m glad that Kevin and Courtney shared with me that Alison had heard a few episodes. I’m glad that Renee said that some of her kids listened at breakfast with her and that Chris said that while he was around delivering marketing materials with some of his sons that they were listening to the podcast and he told me that it was fun because they listened to it at a higher speed, and that was a great reminder to me to tell people, Hey, if I go to slow, just use the controls on your phone or your computer to speed it up a bit, because Chris taught me years ago that you train your mind to listen faster and you get super focused if you put that on a higher speed in the mix of all this I shared on Facebook to my friends. The episode 65 spiritually nudges about college decisions and how I made choices for college based upon some spiritual nudges. Partially, that Shannon Carley Evans chimed in and said, Oh, it’s interesting to hear about your journey because I had a similar path. She had decided English teaching when she was younger, for various reasons, but she felt like when she was older, she would have perhaps made some other choices, and she went back to school and she got her master’s in literacy at 45 she now teaches French, and she wanted to know if I would do anything differently if I were to start over. And I realized, you know, I’ve thought about this a few times and thought, You know what? The approach I took taught me some things I needed to learn what I do it differently. If I knew what I know now, then probably. But some of the fears that kept me away from trying some things in college also still propelled me into trying those things out after college in a way that I might not have been propelled if I had thought of it during college, and of course, no one will ever know right. But as a result of those experiences, I am determined to make sure that my son is exposed to certain things in different ways and has the courage to pursue them in ways that I did not have the courage to pursue them, and I can’t control that. But at least it’s helping and form decisions I make right now and hopefully help others make decisions as well. I loved that the same time we’re having this discussion. Julia do Little shared on Facebook that she was very close to graduating with her bachelor’s degree in her sixties. And she chimed in to this conversation and said, You know that people often ask me why, 50 years after graduating from high school, I would have the desire to complete my college degree, especially after running my own business for 30 years, because they don’t feel there’s a need to do something that doesn’t have a specific purpose. But to me, being a life long learner has in some ways more of a purpose than doing something just because it’s expected and she said. I do wish I had been more focused in my academic learning at 17 but I never felt as the learning was a waste of any age. And so she had found this whole question and conversation interesting about starting over because she said, Yeah, I would have done things differently. It’s rare that we have an opportunity to make the same decision with added understanding. I also recognize that the things I have done in my life have led me to where I am now. My daughter wants asked me about a serious decision I made and whether I would make that same decision again. The decision affected me as well as others, and I have regrets about choosing something that could affect someone else, possibly in a negative way. But I also feel as though it is often the difficulty or negative decisions that can teach us the most if we use them to learn. I really loved that insight. I guess I loved it, especially because I’m learning that right now that mistakes and failures are part of life. Life was built with those in mind because we fail an experiment and explore our way to being better to offering up our best work to offering up our best self. And so these are just some of the thoughts and insights and contributions of some of you. And I wanted to share those because I feel like there’s so many lessons wrapped up in this and it’s a great reminder to constantly be open, to feed back to constantly be open to the conversations because we can learn about ourselves. We can help other people, and we can mutually grow in our knowledge and understanding and provide the space for each other to make the mistakes, to fail forward and to keep learning and not put all of these constraints on ourselves as to when’s the right time to learn getting over the thoughts, that it may be too late in life and really opening ourselves up for possibilities and to understand that any point in time we want to we can improve, we can change, we can explore, we can learn and we can offer up our best work. Okay, my friends, I know After I stopped recording this, I’m going to think of all of the other people that shared insights this month But rest assured, there will be another push back on the desk to share the thoughts. I hope you have a great week and keep pressing forward. Thanks for listening to the show today. If you enjoyed it, I’d love if you’d write a review and share the show with your friends, sign up for a weekly nudge at move your desk dot com. See you next Monday.