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Each of us takes on different work roles as we move along our career, entrepreneur, or life path.
In that process, we will replace someone else and someone else will replace us.
These transitions can mean nothing to us or everything, depending upon how we handle them.
It can be a vulnerable time of self-doubt, confusion, and mind churning thoughts. That is, until we notice that it gives us an opportunity to become aware of how we can improve and grow while also honoring what we offered up in our work. Oh, and doing the same for those who replace us.
Episode 74 Show Notes
Episode 74 Transcript
This is Rebecca Clark. Episode 74. Replacing People This’ll Podcast is for anyone that knows they haven’t yet found and offered up their best work but are compelled to seek it out and do it. Are you ready to move your desk? This week? I had a few interviews, and while I was in one, I noticed that the facilitator wasn’t asking any questions. I was specifically mindful of this particular facilitator because I had read his linked in profile prior to the meeting. So I recognized that he was most likely the person that held the role I was being considered for.
He had an extensive background with the organization and the breadth and depth of skill sets that was quite impressive. I’ll admit to feeling Mawr nervous about the interview after reviewing his profile. I know that I have strength, but my weaknesses were clearer to me. After I reviewed both the job description and his resume an interview, I found out that he was asked to take on another role in the organization, but would still be available to answer questions and share lessons learned in the job transition. So this was a relief to hear even though at the point of this recording, I have no idea whether or not I’ve made it to the next round of discussions up.
Leveling work is a tricky process. It’s filled with judgment of self, of the person you are replacing and the person that will ultimately replace you when you move on. As I responded to questions on this particular interview panel, I would frequently look over to the facilitator on the zoom screen and wonder what he was thinking. What did he think? He did well on the job? What did he wish he had done better? What did he still want to contribute? What did he think of me compared to his capabilities?
And what did he think of me? Compared to the other people that he was interviewing? I was again reminded that tough as he may be as a person and as a leader and as a high achiever, he’s in a vulnerable position right now as he looks beyond his own strengths and weaknesses while simultaneously trying to focus on what is best for the organization going forward, irrespective of all of his hard work and past contributions, he may or may not be aware that his judgments at this time mean everything, because they will impact his ability toe, let go with satisfaction and focus his sights on offering up his best work in his next role.
Or perhaps he’ll get embroiled in comparison, worry or regrets that will increase the side conversations, the past focus and activities that prevents successful transition to the next role he gets to decide what to think of it all, and so does his replacement. As I reflected on this experience, I remembered a Sunday a few years ago where a woman got up in a church setting and shared some thoughts. And I roughly quote er, this meeting has been so much more organized and reverent these past few weeks since so and so has put put in charge.
And then she went on to share how, prior to the new leadership people were late, didn’t listen to the speakers, is intently and have for gotten to respect the purpose of the meeting. I was taken aback by her comments. What had been wrong? What had changed? Why such a bold announcement in front of an audience that included the prior leadership and oh by the way her husband was the new person in charge. So perhaps she was pleased that he had heard her opinions and had paid special attention to these areas as he took on his new role.
I would have loved to ask others what they thought, because you could take what she said Anyway, You wanted Thio. For me, it felt jarring because I had a different perspective on the matter. I had loved the prior leadership. They’re very attuned to counseling and supporting individuals, often behind the scenes from public view. I saw any interactions in and are surrounding the meeting as a sign that the audience was happy to be there interacting with each other and friendly ways. Any disruptions were the normal human experience of Children needing assistance or someone having to address another’s needs.
As I mentioned before, these are the judgments we make as we go through life experiences. I know that I have frequently been caught in the judgment in comparison traps as I’ve gone about offering my best work often. I engage in these types of mental gymnastics when I’m in the middle of performing work, especially if I have the same job as my peers. So when I was a resident assistant, I would often wonder, with the dorm residents, compare me to other R A’s Was I better or worse than the other R A’s?
What did the other resident assistance think of me as a voluntary missionary? Was I better or worse than my companion? Did the people like me more than my companion? Did the companion, like another companion they had served with more than me and what would be said after I left an area that wasn’t being said while I was there. Later, as I took on roles at work, I wondered if the people after me did a better job than I did, and if I was doing a better job than those that came before me as I entered new roles.
Honestly, I think these thoughts persisted well into my thirties. With more experience in time and leadership opportunities, I began to accept that each of us is doing the best we can at any given time in life, and that includes how we approach our work. We each have our personality, knowledge, skills, attributes and motivations. We have the dynamics of home family and friends that were constantly maneuverings through and around. We have organizational cultures and politics, co workers and clients, and top that all off with job responsibilities, expectations, life, circumstances and world events.
We’ve got a lot to process and make decisions about each and every day. And as I remember reading from Burn a Brown once, she mentioned a story about a woman in a grocery store that she was judging because the woman’s Children were loud and she wasn’t going as quickly as Burn a thought she should. And she thought, Why isn’t she doing better? And then, just a few moments later, Bernet had an experience where she made a mistake and in her mind, the first thought that came to her. Waas.
I’m just doing the best that I can as we offer up our best work. Focus on giving it whatever you have the capacity and capability to do right now, be open toe, learn, listen to others, worry about treating those you work with. Well, as you notice those around you going through all the life stuff and move on when you need to and allow someone else to take whatever you’ve created or contributed to that next step and allow others to offer up their best work, even if it doesn’t fit your vision or approach.
Right now, those of you that have been following my journey may be wondering what is going on. Is she an entrepreneur? Is she a coach? Is she going to be an employee again? A consultant? What is she doing? Is she going to pursue it all and see what works? I will tell you this am figuring it out. Life presents new challenges, pitfalls, opportunities and surprises. As we go through our personal journeys, our ability to change, shift, navigate, explore and make decisions through it all is essential. Right now, I’m choosing to engage in the struggle of finding out how and to whom I should focus on.
As I pursue how to offer up my best work. I am compelled to do all that is required to get the answers. For me, it requires taking a look at my judgments off myself. My clients, my interviewers, my competitors. It requires paying attention to how I feel after I make a decision and have taken action on that decision because sometimes I realized that the choice I made had to be made for me to recognize more clearly what the actual correct decisions should be, or to clarify the next best step.
It requires a new openness to possibilities never before known, or at least not considered. It requires acknowledging strengths and weaknesses and figuring out what you want to do with those going forward. Do you want to improve upon those strengths or those weaknesses or accept them as part of you? You get to decide. It requires giving up some things while holding on to others. It requires you to work on noticing all the judgments going on in your mind as they occur towards self correcting how you think, how you feel and how you act.
And it’s all worth it for the work you offer for the person you replace for the person that replaces you. But as I say this, I’m reminded that you never truly replace anyone and they never truly replace you. And I just wanted to leave you with this thought from Margaret Mead. Always remember that you are absolutely unique, just like everyone else. You are not replaceable, my friends, so don’t try to replace someone else. Don’t worry about who you think is replacing you. You did or are doing the best you can with your work, and I know you will keep offering up your best.
Have a great week. It’s thanks for listening to the show today. If you enjoyed it, I’d love if you’d write a review and share the show with your friends, sign up for a weekly nudge at move your desk dot com. See you next Monday.