Episode 135 – A Few of My Favorite Things

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I’ve had a song in my head all month. It’s from The Sound of Music.

The funny thing is that it is called “My Favorite Things” and most of the favorite things mentioned don’t resonate with me. But, I like the idea of it.

The song also mentioned the hard stuff that happens – when the dog bites, when the bee stings, and when I’m feeling bad kind of hard things.

For me, it’s provided some reflection on my favorite things. It’s shown me that some things that are hard, I actually do love because they have brought me goodness.

Wrapped into this conversation are thoughts about abundant thinking, wanting what you have, and being grateful.

It’s relevant to talk about these topics all year round, but especially important at a time of year where many of us decide to be purposeful in our gratitude.

Tune in to hear me talk about some of my favorite things. Not because mine are interesting, but perhaps by hearing them you will identify your own.

After listening to this, I am surprised at how many of my favorite things I didn’t mention. And, that’s ok. It shows that our own reflections can trigger more insights and gratitude if we take time to speak them or write them out.

Episode 135 Transcript

This is Rebecca Clark Episode 135. My favorite things. Mm hmm. This podcast is for anyone that knows they haven’t yet found and offered up their best work but are compelled to seek it out and do it. Are you ready to move your desk? I’m going to share the lyrics of a song and I think some of you may recognize these lyrics, raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens. Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens. Brown paper packages tied up with strings. These are a few of my favorite things. Cream colored ponies and crisp apple strudels, Doorbells and sleigh bells and schnitzel with noodles, wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings. These are a few of my favorite things. Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes, snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes. Silver white winters that melt into springs. These are a few of my favorite things when the dog bites when the bee stings. When I’m feeling sad. I simply remember my favorite things and then I don’t feel so bad. This is from Rodgers and Hammerstein. And most of you recognize this song, my favorite things from the broadway production called the Sound of Music. I heard this song in my house growing up all the time because my mother was in the sound of music when she was in college at the college, not in the well known movie. And then I remember when I was in grade school, she performed in a local, my Fair Lady play. Right? So we heard singing all the time, we heard Rodgers and Hammerstein all the time. And when we moved to michigan, we went to musicals all the time. It seemed like at the Temple Theater in Saginaw Michigan. And so I was surrounded by the sound of music music as well as other broadway hits and musicals. This song has kept coming to my mind over the last few weeks as I think about thanksgiving and mixed up into these thoughts are all of my thoughts about getting better at thinking abundantly, being more grateful, appreciating what I have and thoughts that help us year round. But we put a special focus on them during this time of year. And it brought to mind some things that I have been wanting to share. And sometimes I’m just really delayed on sharing some things because I feel like I have more to learn about it and I have to be more expert on it and have deeper insights and I’m realizing I just need to share it when it’s on my mind and over time if I learn more, I can always come back and talk about it again and the beauty of it is, is often in between, I run into other experts or people That have great ideas and insights that I choose to apply to my life. So as I’ve learned about abundance, thinking over the years and the importance of being grateful, I came across something that really struck me for some reason and this might be common sense to many of you. But the way it was worded made me stop and think for a minute and it came from doing an exercise we do as coaches where we write down 25 things that we want and we are told in that process too, write down what we want and to recognize as we’re writing down what we want that we already have some things we want if that makes sense. And here’s a quote from Brooke Castelluccio. Most of us don’t spend time wanting what we have. We don’t think of wanting from a place of abundance to want. The things you already have is different than just being grateful for those things. It’s a different kind of energy. It was really thought provoking for me to sit on that and go, well, wait, how is that different from being grateful? You can say I’m grateful for my family. I’m grateful for my job. I’m grateful that I have a brain where I can think of things and make choices. I am grateful for freedom or for opportunity. I’m grateful for health. We can say all these things, but do we spend time thinking about, hey, I want to have good health, I already have it, but I want to have it. And what does it do if we come from a place of wanting something we already have and I’m realizing, oh that is abundant thinking isn’t it? Because mixed into that you’re having gratitude while still wanting to search a Sikh, take care of whatever the thing you already have, it’s kind of like protecting a treasure except protecting it in a way where you love it. So you want to keep it versus protecting it because you’re afraid that someone might take it from you right? Because you can act out and really interesting ways if you think someone is out to get you versus hey, I’m gonna take care of this because I love it and I don’t want to lose it, I want to keep it and have it continue being part of my life. And so I’m going to read that again because it just struck me as a really interesting way to view things. Most of us don’t spend time wanting what we have, we don’t think of wanting from a place of abundance to want the things you already have is different than just being grateful for those things. It’s a different kind of energy as I thought about that. I thought, wow, I am not ready to be able to share using all the correct words, but it’s very easy to sit down and go, okay, what are some of my favorite things, what are some things that I want that I already have and what are some things that I want that I don’t yet have or don’t have it in the way that I want it. So for example right now, I am recording this podcast episode in a house that has massive windows and I’m sitting in a room where I can look out and see everything in the east, everything in the south and everything in the west, like the whole side of the house, the corner all has windows on all different sides. I have an amazing view in many respects, right? The sky is amazing. Not sure that some of the other things in the view are amazing. But this is not my house. And yet I want a house where I can have this kind of setup because I enjoy it. I enjoy all the light. I enjoy being able to see out into the distance and it’s really interesting to sit here and be grateful for it. It’s not even mine, but I want something like this. And yet I’m sitting here grateful for being able to sit in someone else’s house and they already have it and I get the privilege of benefiting from it while I’m sitting here. So I wanted to share a few of my favorite things, not because you would be very interested in that, but I’m hoping that as I share some of my favorite things, it may trigger you to think of some of your favorite things and as I do this, I hope you notice that some things that are my favorite things may seem negative were hard and that is purposeful because that’s part of the point. I am grateful for a higher power and my belief in that higher power. I’m grateful for amazing teachers and these teachers come in ancient philosophers, they come in people like christ and buddha and Mohammed, all of these great teachers from the past that we bring their work to the future and Gandhi also the teachers I had in my life growing up, whether it was at school or youth leaders or in college or people I choose to learn from now through online courses or books or podcasts. I love learning and it’s taken me many years in life to realize that the way I learned necessarily isn’t in the classroom as much as it is from being by myself, reading and listening to books and then having great conversations with people. So I have my different ways of preferred learning and I learned in all of them, but I love that we can continue to learn no matter how old we are, we can make a choice to learn. I have several friends right now in their forties and fifties that are going back to school and some of them are doing that through masters degrees. Some of them are doing it through certifications and some are just deciding to pay for a course online and to learn from people that way. None of those ways are wrong. I just think it’s wonderful that they’re doing it right because we anxiously are engaged in learning, we can continue to offer up our best work to the world. I’m grateful for family. I’m grateful for friends and in those relationships, there’s hard stuff, right? There’s pain, there’s confusion, there’s embarrassment, there’s judgment, all those things. But I still want those relationships and I want to make them stronger. And I didn’t have a lot of friends When I was young, I was very shy and I held back a lot. So at home I was loud and bossy. I was the oldest living child. So I was in charge judgmental, you know, all the things those of us that are the oldest do and at school I was very shy and quiet and no one really made fun of me. I don’t remember being made fun of, even though I would be around people who were made fun of, but sometimes people would point out how shy was and they didn’t realize that what I made that mean was I wasn’t allowed to talk very interesting. A lot of people don’t take it that way. That’s how I took it at the time. So I felt like I couldn’t talk once I was labeled as shy, but I started to grow out of that and I started to build great relationships and now I have a lot of very close friends and I feel like even if I don’t talk to someone for a couple of years, we can still pick up where we left off. Even if we all have different views and beliefs than we had before. I think that’s so wonderful. I’ve also learned that I love the Toyota four runner And I wouldn’t have known this and this lady crashed into my Toyota Camry and I thought I had a wonderful camera. It was the top of the line camera. I had it for like 15 something years, 16 maybe. I can’t remember crashed into me and then I had the opportunity To experience the Toyota four runner. I really like it. It’s high up, it’s a little sporty actually, it’s the sporty version, so it’s pretty cool and it’s not in the color I expected and it doesn’t have leather seats like I thought I wanted, but I still love it and I’m grateful, I have it and I want it. I love the fortune cookies at Panda Express, they’re not that amazing. But inside them there’s always a little gift and it’s always positive and it makes you feel like there’s going to be something amazing that happens in your life that day. And I was thinking about why I liked it so much and I realized it’s a positive nudge And because nudge has been part of my vocabulary the last 10 years, I love that the Panda Express fortunes always have a positive nudge and I love nudging because through small and simple ways we can help each other a small comment, a small compliment, a resource shared or an idea or when someone points out you may be good at something. The hard part about this is there’s often in the opposite unwittingly. We give a judgmental glance to someone or say something out of our own fears. Anxieties or propensity to be critical, right? And that can have an impact on people. I do not like when I say something and all of a sudden I see a flicker in someone’s eye and not a positive flicker, right? A flicker like I did something that caused them do not want to interact with me or to think I was judging them or hurtful in some way. I have no control over that. But I can control noticing it and going, oh what did I say? Could I have said it differently? That would have had more of an impact Instead of a negative influence. I am grateful for the hardships. I’m grateful for the mistakes. I want to have mistakes. I want to experiment and I want to have this hard stuff and I guess I want it because I can look back in life and see that when I’ve had that and work through it, I am stronger for it and I can do hard things. And if I don’t have enough of that going on, I’m wondering if I am too comfortable now. I have not been too comfortable for a long time. I’ve had to go through a lot of hard things the past few years and I don’t know that I’ve done a good job with it. But I’ve done pretty well in some areas and other areas. I have room to grow. This is one of the reasons I wanted to share that song. My favorite things because in the song, it points out in one refrain when the dog bites when the bee stings when I’m feeling sad. I simply remember my favorite things and then I don’t feel so bad. That’s part of what I wanted to share. Some of these things that I want, that I have some of the things that I want that I don’t have all have the good and the bad mixed into them and there has to be that opposite. So we can notice the difference in our feelings. We can notice how what we’re doing or not doing impacts us in our lives. I am grateful for experiences, whether it be vacations, general life or work experiences and I want more experiences because I want all the experiences that I’ve had. I looked back with fond memories on the times we went to big cities like new york city or Toronto or Los Angeles. But I also have fond memories of not having a place to sleep at night. So my family put up tents in an Amish field. I can’t remember if it was Ohio or pennsylvania. We’ve been stuck in a massive thunderstorm in Grand Island Nebraska when we camped there when we were visiting where we used to live, we’ve woken up in Yellowstone to have buffaloes in our campground and I still remember the guy sitting in his van having his morning coffee or something and there’s some buffalo coming up behind him and we were leaving the campground. So we don’t know what happened. I love that. I got to visit my sister and her husband and kids in Guadalajara when they were there and to experience living above a store for a few weeks and then going to europe to visit some relatives and standing by myself on the beach in California. And at first being bothered that I didn’t get to stay at the fancy hotel at Laguna beach. But then realizing that I got to stay at a hotel down the road and I was alone at dana point and what a wonderful experience it was to just walk along the beach, whether it was dana point in California or Virginia beach in Virginia or Bahamas or hawaii, all the fun travels, all the lessons learned. I love that I’ve seen yo yo ma at the Kennedy center, but I’ve also been to small living room christmas orchestra practices in midland michigan. I love my job experiences as well. Be able to mow lawns and do paper outs, babysit, waitress, pick weeds, clean toilets, teach, manage projects, direct teams and even try detest selling corn that was not a fit. Mhm But now I know that and I love that. I have all those experiences and I know that I will keep having interesting job experiences and I want more of those experiences and I want to hear other people’s experiences and to help them recognize that every job and every piece of work they’ve done all is a part of them going forward. I love technology and there’s so much bad with technology but there’s also so much good that has come into the world. I love that no matter what size you are, you can buy clothing now and have it look good. I am not a fan of these pants with the skinny legs except under my exercise clothes. And why is that? Because I dealt with pants that were too short most of my life and it was embarrassing and unflattering and I didn’t like it and now I can get tall sizes all over the place on the internet, not much in stores, but all over the place on the internet. It’s pretty awesome. And I don’t have to pay that much extra. Like I used to, it’s all available now. How wonderful do we live in a time where everyone can get something that meets their needs. I love journaling. I am grateful for my journals. I want to journal more and that’s why I love podcasting. I think because it’s a chance for me to get out my thoughts and ideas and stories and it becomes a record to share with those I care about in the future. So I will do this podcast even if no one is listening besides me and I hope someday that my son will want to listen to this podcast, especially if I’m gone. So many things to be grateful for. So many things are my favorite things. And some of those favorite things include hard stuff like bees biting or was it dogs biting? I don’t know, bee stings and dog bites, whatever, you know what I mean? And I want what I have and I want other things as well. But as I want them, I’m going to come to it from the place of thinking abundantly not holding on for fear of losing them holding on because I love that some things are part of my life. one of my favorite things is having listeners to this podcast to tell me when things resonate with them and mention ideas to me. And some people would love to be on and share their thoughts too. And I will be having more interviews coming up because when you have your own podcast, you can talk by yourself for a while, but then you can interview people whenever you want and that’s what I love about it too. You can do it however, you’d like to do it. One last thing. One of my favorite things is the ability to change and improve. We have wonderful brains given to us by our creator and we get to use them and sometimes we use them by just sitting there thinking sometimes we use them when we’re interacting with people. We use them when we take the time to look up a question we have on the internet and we use them when we experiment and we do hard things and we make mistakes and we go, whoops, that wasn’t quite right. I need to change that and improve. What I also love about changes that we can choose to allow others around us to change whenever they want and sometimes we don’t choose to do that. We label each other and put each other in a rut. I encourage you today to take time to think about what you’re grateful for and what some of your favorite things are. And in the mix of all of that include things that you want that you have include things that you want and you don’t have in the way that you want it and include things that you want, that you don’t have it all right now. But notice how an awful lot of that you already have in some shape or form, which is good news because it means it’s available to you. I also encourage you to allow yourself and others to make the changes you want to become who you know what is already in there inside of you and just is not being used to full capacity as we allow each other to grow and change. We will build upon that growth and we’ll have amazing ideas and make amazing contributions and we will offer up our best work, happy thanksgiving my friends. I hope you have a great week. I’m grateful for you and I want you to come back and talk to you soon. Mm hmm. 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